COunselling can help you with relationships, BEREAVEMENT, SEXUALITY, addictions, depression, low self-esteem, creativity, effectiveness And career
“True listening is another way of bringing stillness into the relationship. When you truly listen to someone, the dimension of stillness arises and becomes an essential
part of the relationship.”
Counselling is a time set aside for you.
Counselling is also a relationship between two people who have come together for the purpose of healing, growth, change or personal development. However unlike a friendship where both people give each other conditional attention, in counselling the therapist directs her time, care and energy towards the client with skill, understanding and without judgement. It is both a professional and a personal relationship. Because of this professional boundary, the quality of the attention can be unconditional.
The money that is exchanged represents a recognition of professional training and skills. However I consider the part of the work that is held in the therapeutic relationship to be vocational and I give it freely.
Sometimes it’s about your story, sometimes it may be a feeling process or sometimes its about thinking, talking or using dynamic exercises to bring about positive change. Sometimes we may make use of the glorious country side that surrounds my practice. Sometimes it is about being still and accepting what is there.
As I am trained in psychotherapy as well as counselling, I have the skills to work in a deeper way looking at how past patterns have contributed to current experience. This work can have a profound impact on the process of change and so I approach all my clients and their stories with respect, following at your pace and not my own.
How does it work?
It works in a different way for different people. For some counselling creates a safe place to unburden themselves and to feel seen and heard by someone who will not judge, will not advise or interfere and will keep confidentiality. For others the process creates a forum for change and growth using different techniques and ideas.
Why do people go to counselling?
Lots of reasons: to work through loss and grief; to overcome addiction or obsessive behaviour; to work through past or current trauma; to free themselves from negative behavioural patterns; to overcome feelings of depression or anxiety, to cope with general stress or feelings of low self esteem. Sometimes people come to therapy just to know more about themselves!
What will happen?
After you have made the first contact, we will discuss a good time for a confidential first meeting at my practice. We will then discuss what you want and whether we both feel that we want to work together. We might then agree to work together for a certain period of time and then review how it is going for you and what you want to do next.
What will happen then?
We will meet up at regular intervals of an hour’s length, for therapy. Most people come once a week. We will continue to review how it is going for you.